Here I Go Again, but in my defense I can’t help myself!
I’ll make it quick.
I have to speak more about spending time, “together on purpose.” There isn’t any rule on how families should spend time together, but it is probably best to do what works for your family. I might suggest game time, family movie dates, or coloring (come on when’s the last time you colored?). This time we did yoga again.
I won’t lie, you won’t be able to get all your children to do yoga all the time. I can barely get all of them to sleep through the night (it always seems like someone will have a nightmare, or becomes feverish. Of course it never fails that it will happen right as my head hits the pillow). Anyway, on a particular day my son was all for hanging out with mom.
I noticed he was all wound up and restless. He was poking around, picking at his siblings in an annoying way and he could not keep himself occupied. So I decided we would “play” together; little did he know we would stretch our muscles (play=yoga. now insert mischievous music).
We started sitting and facing each other. I encouraged us to share a mat only to help him stay near and focused. We centered ourselves with taking a breath.
He is a bit competitive and by the third one he wanted to see who could release their exhale the longest (Maybe, I let him win, or maybe not). We then sat in what he calls butterfly pose and began to flutter away. He is more motivated when he takes lead, so I followed his rhythm. When he said fast we fluttered fast. When he said slow, I slowed. He took pride at touching his nose to his toes, and said mumbling “look mom this is turtle pose.” I was just grateful that he didn’t ask me to try it and that my nose was no where near his toes.
Afterwards we moved into child’s pose. He did not last long there and quickly moved upwards and I took the opportunity to introduce downward dog. After yapping like a dog, he decided he wanted to be a frog and I just let him move right along. I would cue him to close his eyes, or remember to take a breath. I even asked if he noticed any differences in his body.
We didn’t play and stretch for a long time. It was just enough time for us to enjoy each other. He gained a little more mastery over his body and confidence by taking the lead with directing the poses. By the end I felt less tense physically and enjoyed the fun engagement. He went back to playing with his siblings, but in a much nicer way.
There it is. Not long? I hope to chat with you soon, and share in the Soulshine together.