Our next post was going to be about remembering to pause . . . and breathe, especially during this time of emergency (keep a look out for the corresponding video).
However, I came across a post from one of our anonymous contributors from last year and in reading it I noticed interesting parallels in our(my) world today. I thought this might be helpful for others due to its ability to simultaneously speak (have questions) about some of our collective circumstances as well as show how vastly different things have changed in a short amount of time. Feel free to share your thoughts and/or stories.
I hope to chat with you soon, and share in the Soulshine together (virtually and hopefully sooner in person).
There is so much reading materials, videos and seminars now on how to be a parent. What to do and not to do. What works and doesn't work.
Yet (whose with me) we still feel like we are blindly feeling our way a bunch of the time. Everything that works for your child, doesn't work for my children and vice versa.
Let me tell you a story...
I have three quite amazing children. I recently got married and adopted four more pretty amazing children. I have two boys and five girls. Here's the thing, very little seems amazing when you have seven different personalities pulling at you at once. I am a stay at home parent and I stay very busy most of the time. There is much to be done from breakfast til bedtime.
Summer vacation has just started and it is madness here with the Brady Bunch as I call us. My children range from eleven to my son turning 21 one week from today. I get up every weekday morning at five thirty and get my son to work. Who is with me that summer vacations are definitely more hectic than the school months. Schedules are quite exasperating. I find that I nearly need to be in two places at once.
So parents, let me ask you a question (or a few).
While it feels like there aren't enough hours in the day to get everything done, while at the same time the hours drag by. When do we raise our children?
When do we in our busy lives sit with our children and really instill in them the knowledge we as parents need to pass to our children? I'm asking is it dinnertime conversations, on the way to whatever activity, or before bedtime conversations? When and where is there enough time to impress on our children all they need to know?
All of you reading this probably don't have seven children, but generally the same applies doesn't it? We lead busy lives, our children lead busy lives. I am finding myself at a loss.
Five of my seven children are working, and one is in the process of securing a summer job. There is not a lot of talk time. If you are saying to yourselves that we need to teach our children while they are young; I agree with you, however, in our ever-changing society, learning has to continue,
am I wrong? I sit with each of my children as often as possible, I am constantly encouraging them while discouraging some things.
Tell me your ideas. I would love as much feedback as you are willing to give.
Thanks for reading my thoughts.
Mother of Seven